From Fearing Conflict to Harnessing Conflict

There is inherent wisdom in our fear.

Often, we avoid conflict in the fear of that it will worsen the relationship. And usually, there is truth in that fear.

We have a sense that in the face face of conflict, we will get defensive, we will shut down, we will blame. We have an idea how it will play out, given how we are likely to play out.

If we could look in the eye of that fear, we could ask - how do we think it might play out, how do we think we are likely to be, how do we think the other person is…