Why what you think is empathy, may not be empathy…

Few days ago, I was responding to someone’s question about a certain choice I made. As I began to explain, I was met with knowing nods, recounting of similar choices, and a lot of advice.

I really appreciated the care, but none of it was really relevant to me!

My first urge was to correct, to explain. But I didn’t. I didn’t have any particular need to be heard.

Later, it was interesting to reflect, that the times that I have felt least heard, has often been the times people have said to me…